Having people who have gone through the same things on your side is one secret to surviving single parenting alive. These people can give you advice on all kinds of stuff. You can even help each other out when it comes to taking care of the children. 6. Have faith. Having God on your side will help you go through every trial. Divorce - Single parenting due to divorce means that the divorced single parent will have the primary custody of the child or children. The single parent will do the major obligation of raising the child or children but the other parent can still be involved in the family. The usual pattern after divorce is that the mother becomes the single parent (taking the major obligation of raising the children) while the father becomes the supporting parent. Yet there will still be times when you'll doubt yourself if you can do parenting alone. The following self-help books might help you bring in the confidence you need to raise your child and build a family in a single parent family/household setting: 1. The Complete Single Mother: Reassuring Answers to Your Most Challenging Concerns by Andrea Engber and Leah Klungness, Ph. Some, especially those who have to work, also need to pay for babysitting services. There are also the child equipment like a crib, a play mat and a stroller, not to mention the toys and books that they need to enrich their brain and enhance their learning. And when the child grows up, you will also need to pay for their education from preschool to college. If you are one of those parents who would not want their kid's schooling to be affected so much by being in an unhappy relationship then now is the best time to opt for single parenting. Not many parents know that schooling has become less and less friendlier for kids. And though there are better classrooms and teachers, this doesn t change the fact that there is more pressure that is placed on the kid's shoulder. Experts say that you should opt for single parenting when you: - are generally tired of all the things that have been happening inside the house. You will feel that you are not happy when you are with your husband or wife and there's always tension when you are together. - don t look forward to coming home and would prefer staying outside the house.