These may not actually be said direct on our face but their actions and sneers are enough to convince us that we are losers. Perhaps you live under cold critical eyes that know nothing of imperfection. Or maybe you are the underling of a brother who achieves in school, thus the intense focus on him and frequent disregard for you. Life changing routes usually happen when we pass by a path and find that path to be the right way for us. People may point us to our direction but without our willingness to drive us there, no amount of help can truly help us except when it comes from our self. Self motivation will greatly affect the ways by which we build our self confidence. Though we may have dreamt of being the perfect persons we see in other people, we have to understand that nothing can be perfect. The things we would want to happen in our lives don't necessarily happen the way we want them to be however tactful our plans were. The very things we want to attain will not pass by us so long as we won't work towards achieving them. You might be wondering why there is a need to develop physical presence when many times, we have been recognized even we were quiet of our achievements. Well, this principle worked rarely though this does not negate the fact that this works. However, everyone here is a mercenary on his own. He must act where everyone sees him before he is actually seen. Avoid using sweeping statements about yourself because these are the very things that would eventually strip you off your good self image. Recreating the comments you give to yourself will have a huge impact on your self confidence. In the end, destruction comes from within us. Other people may argue that we are affected by external pessimism. Many of us think that the man we are looking up to shared much of life's blessings because he can bear himself better, he can face the public better and he is much eloquent and more confident than most of us. Remember that before he even got there, he ahs to face challenges that contributed to his self-esteem and self confidence.