Children don't know these things though along with other things that are essential to living life fully. They are not even aware that the juncture they are presently into is the peak of initial development. Having said all these, it is but important that each of us recognize our impacts to a child's over all well being, from his childhood until he matures. If you make yourself believe in that hatred and you truly are convinced that you are not good enough, you will only get two products- one, genuine hatred and two, lower self esteem. The majority of us are caught unaware with our words. We sometimes fail to check ourselves of the things we are registering in our subconscious mind. We say to ourselves that we are ugly and incapable of doing things. The irony though is that people think otherwise. They view us as wonderful people who are worth admiration. It is obvious that low self confidence can hinder us from our growth. It will always pull us down into the realms of mediocre life and dullness. Leave your answer hanging then whisper it to yourself. Whatever the output is, see to it that you would change things for the better. If you can say that you are confident enough then good! But don't settle yourself with what's enough. There will always be gaps and you should cease the opportunities for improvement. It all lies in our positive perception of our personality, the events occurring around us and life itself. So long as we believe in the goodness that we may have in life, we are bound to enjoy it the way every man should. Unfortunately, many of us cannot grasp optimism from a life that is muddled with miseries, morbidity, and struggles. If you still don't know your mettle, it is best that you set more realistic goals first. Once you have overcome your limits then will you only be able to set higher goals that would test how well you have developed. It is crucial that all our goals are achieved initially since we are trying to gain some things.