And to add up more miseries on your already-piled up problems, you would learn to accept that there is nothing more to life but defeats and failures. You faith in yourself by now is much too weakened. Therefor, you would not try to resolve your conflict on sense of self and would not dare plan how to get around this self-tormenting course of life. However, if your standards deal more on the innate beauty a person may have like goodness of attitude or skills and talents, you may start revamping yourself by strengthening these areas. Low self confidence is more aggravated by our failures. Failing is inevitable and so it must be dealt with a light heart. Activities like developing your verbal skills through writing and public relations will help largely in increasing your sense of self. Most of us have the fear of facing the public. Yet once we get over this fear, we are likely to discover more of our capabilities later own. You may also find reinforcement of self confidence from cultivating your innate talents. Depending on your treatment of things, the end might as well be considered as the beginning. The start of a new trial. All we need is to take the positive attitude and make ourselves believe that some things are meant to fail on our first trials and then luck would follow us. Our route for development is always towards a specific goal. But the point we are missing is that once we fail our expectations and the expectations of the crowd that is watching us, we will be discouraged to try things again. You see, on our initial tries it is not bad if we would set achievable goals rather than confidence boosting-unrealistic goals that would leave us dismayed. It goes without saying that those confident individuals can bear themselves better than those who have lower sense of the "self". They are the achievers, the people of the limelight, the center of the society. They walk straight, speak their meanings very well and influence people, both subtly and obviously.