Our route for development is always towards a specific goal. And since nothing comes from nothing, it is unarguable that we were innately confident. We were all entitled to confidence unless we turn away from this gift, which by the way is the normal reaction of most people who have failed on their initial shot. You are so endowed with talents, skills and personality that would make you fit for the world. So face it with all things you have. Your inner critic may tell you otherwise because it would not want you harm. After all, it is there to make everything safe. The thing though is that we don't always have to be safe with everything. They walk straight, speak their meanings very well and influence people, both subtly and obviously. In short, they are those who care recognizable even from afar. Sometimes, self confident people are very much loved by the society. It is maybe due to their charisma or they are, by nature very amiable. It all depends on how we train the individual and how we form his core values and beliefs. Lack of encouragement may cause a child to be a bit less confident of himself. Couple this with frequent abusive words, you are sure to have a child that has crippled sense of self. It is best to make a child realize how special and how worthy he is. Guides to Help You in Gaining Self Confidence Self confidence is one of the many things we think everyone else have expect us. Don't be harsh with yourself. Of course you are in equal footing with the person standing next to you. If he has the confidence you admire and you loath for not having the same confidence then don't get caught with the idea that you can't be like him. Life changing routes usually happen when we pass by a path and find that path to be the right way for us. People may point us to our direction but without our willingness to drive us there, no amount of help can truly help us except when it comes from our self. Self motivation will greatly affect the ways by which we build our self confidence.