And at times, you would even convince yourself that you are also responsible for the failures of those people you have close contact with. As a child, sweeping statements will be a commonplace for you. You will convince yourself of how stupid you are even without the reinforcement that comes from the warped people surrounding you. The difference though lies in the fashion of talking and words we are uttering. Self talk may either be detrimental or positive. Whatever we say to ourselves will be recorded in our unconsciousness. This in turn would rely on more dominant beliefs we record. Thus, we frequently assert that we're worth nothing, or that we are the ugliest person or the most ill performing. The main aim of which is to raise ideal children that are whole heartedly devoted to the purity of their being and in the service of Him who Created all things. The sad truth though is that once men touch something, that thing would be flawed. It is our nature to be perfect though but it is inescapable for us humans to integrate grains of impurity in everything we do. If you think positively of yourself and take stock of all positive attributes you have while considering the worth of those you lack then you can atleast make yourself believe that you can actually do and can make things happen. Positive thinking is not being overly hopeful of something that is unachievable. Others, on the other hand, lean more on playing safe and thus create more achievable goals that are easier to attain. And because achievements add largely to the development of self confidence, these people benefit from knowing that they are somehow capable of doing something. You may already have heard the phrase- "its all in the mind". Either way, we will benefit so long as we don't choose to be misguided by circumstances that would try to redirect us to failure. Obviously, the first step before we truly gain enough self confidence is for us to understand the entirety of being ourselves. This would entail our knowledge of everything that we are capable of doing and everything that we cannot do superbly or we cannot actually do.