The sad truth though is that once men touch something, that thing would be flawed. It is our nature to be perfect though but it is inescapable for us humans to integrate grains of impurity in everything we do. Parenthood does not escape that reality. Every parent dreams the best for his or her child. It will create proofs of how unable and incapacitated you are against shining. It will make you believe in time that you truly are worthless and insignificant. It would store memories of such failures to be recovered when you falter with "unbelief". This inner critic will eat you up until it overpowers your sense of self. These zones may not necessarily help him grow and recover from too low self esteem yet these will cerate environments where he is safe from critical eyes. Another sign of genuine low self esteem is the emotional turmoil that often causes anxiety over things that for other people, requires no serious attention at all. If he has the confidence you admire and you loath for not having the same confidence then don't get caught with the idea that you can't be like him. In fact, if you just set your mind to gaining confidence then you are sure to be like him someday. People are not born with confidence. We have to develop it and there are many interplaying factors that must be put to balance before we can actually create an ideal self confidence that would guide us through our achievements. Unlike the detrimental habit of saying- "my life is messed up" or "my life is nothing but a good way to kill time", you can use positive reinforcements and say otherwise. You may not have realized it but you are a genius in your own fashion. A philosopher once said that all men have an innate beast within him. Remember that each of us is a unique being which is perfectly fit to for uniqueness. We only have to be careful of identifying our unique spots and in the process, help them shine from us. Find an activity that will both contribute to your being and will provide a pleasurable means for you to grow and gain more confidence.